The text explores the intricate relationship between counselling, identity, and lived experiences, emphasizing that identity is shaped both personally and externally. The author reflects on their experiences as a gay counsellor working with the LGBTQIA+ community, highlighting the challenges of conveying the complexities of diverse identities in a training environment often dominated by theoretical understanding. Interaction with peers revealed assumptions about objectivity and understanding lived experiences, underscoring the need for cultural competence in therapy. Ultimately, the author advocates for empathy and recognition of personal experiences to foster effective counselling relationships and genuine inclusivity in society.